Today, Teen and Parent (TAP) Perspectives focuses on Halloween. The writing team consists of one adult parent (Em) and three teen writers: J3 – 18-yrs, KAPPS – 16-yrs, and Q-Ball – 14-yrs.
To start, we’ll keep things simple. Our writing team completed a Halloween survey, which we’ll share. The answers hinted at personalities, but the bigger revelation is the differences in the perspectives of teens and an adult.
The point isn’t to judge the perspectives as being right or wrong, better or worse, mature or immature. The point is that the perspectives are just different. Understanding and enjoying that helps us understand and enjoy the other person, which is critical if we’re going to relate well.
Q1: To kick-off the survey, what are your general thoughts on Halloween?
J3: Great holiday. Love it.
KAPPS: If you do it right, you can get a ton of free candy in a little amount of time.
Q-Ball: It’s the night where every child whose blissful, sugary days have been long forsaken by overbearing parents, prowl amongst the elderly, stealing sugary, non-cardiovascular friendly food. (I’m practicing vocabulary.)
Em: I liked it better when I was a kid. Now, it requires work.
Q2: Is it worthy of a day off school? Work?
KAPPS: Yeah! I mean, kids are staying out late. Hmm…maybe we should take off the day after.
Q-Ball: Of course it’s worthy of a day off at school. If we can take off school to celebrate the day a Spanish dude landed in America in 1492, I think we can create a national holiday that celebrates free candy.
Em: No. Is this a trick question?
Q3: Favorite costume (that you’ve worn or that you’ve seen someone wear)?
J3: I like costumes that puppies wear.
KAPPS: A banana outfit.
Q-Ball: One of the best costumes I’ve seen is an Adele costume. That is, an “a Dell“ costume. Like the computer.
Em: A toilet, complete with flushing sound and a bowl that held candy. Disgusting, but the boy made it himself. That impressed me.
Q4: Most memorable Halloween experience?
J3: Every year after trick or treating, my siblings, friends, and I dumped our candy on the living room carpet and traded it.
KAPPS: One year, I was so excited to go trick or treating, I jumped in the road, on a man hole cover, fell right on my butt, and couldn’t walk the rest of the time. So people gave me their candy out of pity. Great day.
Q-Ball: One night, three friends and I came to a house with a bowl of candy on the front porch. But a lifeless zombie was sitting in a rocking chair in front of it. My friends tiptoed up the driveway.
The zombie popped out of his seat.
My friends screamed. One tumbled and sprawled on the driveway. Her candy spewed across the lawn. Another shoved the third aside and sprinted for the sidewalk!
The zombie chased the two who fled down the driveway. But the friend who had fallen, frantically tried to recover her candy, furiously plucking Snickers from the grass. We had a true trick-or-treater: Grab the candy before the zombie got it!
Em: One year, I sprained my ankle the day before Halloween. Each time the doorbell rang, I hobbled to the door with candy, often dropping it. The kids must have thought I was diseased. One 5-yr old ran away.
Q5: What do you like most about Halloween?
J3: Candy and spoopy atmosphere.
KAPPS: Anyone can go trick or treating without judgment. If not, put a blanket over your head and call yourself a ghost. No one will ever know who you are!
Q-Ball: Free candy and fun with your friends.
Em: What is “spoopy”?
Q6: What is your Halloween pet-peeve?
J3: When you go up to a house that has no candy or bad candy.
KAPPS: TV shows that get excited over Halloween, starting October 1st. Calm down.
Q-Ball: Sign systems and candy pillagers. If a house has a candy bucket on the porch with a sign that says Please take one or two pieces of candy from the bucket, then PLEASE, just take two pieces of candy from the bucket. I’ve seen that sign so many times, and the bucket is always empty.
Public service announcement: THE SIGN SYSTEM DOESN’T WORK. The first kid pours the whole bucket of candy into his stash.
Em: Smashed pumpkins. It’s crushes the little kid who carved it, and parents have to clean up the mess. If you must smash pumpkins, smash your own, on your driveway, and then clean it up—or don’t. If it’s your family’s driveway, you can decide what to do with it.
Q7: What age did you stop trick or treating?
KAPPS: Maybe I’ll stop after high school.
Q-Ball: I am boundless.
Em: Long before high school. Add this to my Halloween pet peeve list: older teens who trick or treat. If you want candy, fine, just get a job.
Q8: Does Halloween hold any significance to you?
J3: Yeah, candy and parties!
KAPPS: Candy and time to hangout with friends.
Q-Ball: Free candy!
Em: I get to see the neighbors one last time before winter sets in.
Q9: Fill in in the blank: The perfect Halloween would include _______ .
J3: Pumpkins, spoopy music, candy, darkly lit areas.
KAPPS: Live singing/dancing in the streets. Like, Halloween town songs, performers, and audiences. That would be so cool.
Q-Ball: The perfect Halloween would include a ski lift. Who invented hills?
Em: The definition of “spoopy”.
Until next time…